This news is late in coming – at least online – Ursula and I are getting married.


The happiest couple. At the Ottoman Room in the Botanical Gardens. (It does, in fact, have a big chair.)

For years, I’ve asked myself the questions: who will I spend my life with, and how will I know she’s the one? These are common questions, and important ones, but I’ve been learning about a different one: what will spending my life with someone be like? For me, asking this question led me to answer the others. Our friendship grew until we began to see and want what companionship would be like. It was the little things as well as the big ones: not having to say goodbye at the end of the day, cooking and sharing our meals, taking walks and time to pray, keeping an apartment clean together (and a cat), taking turns freaking out about our dissertations, or just being near each other as we read and work. God said it is not good for humans to live alone, and so he created community. How do I know Ursula is “the one?” I’ve begun to see what sharing a life with her will be like, and it is very good.